Marriages are made in heaven. Surely. But what about love marriages? Are they made in some haven’s heaven or some special heaven not accessible to everyone? Well who knows except for the ones who don’t have a love marriage.
Never ever did I think that these ‘sort’ of marriages were a big deal till some time back. Of late I have started bumping into people who crib of the fact that they would end up in an arranged marriage. The deal for them is that love marriages would open doors for a blissful life and a fairy-tale kind of story would follow the suit.
This kind of, the unkind ambassador of arranged marriage, populace is becoming so banal that classifying them into certain categories is some task. Few years back there was this guy, IIML pass out, (I did not want to mention his alumni, but then I thought otherwise just to show a wide range of people affected by this bug) who was about to have an arranged marriage but hell bent on proving everyone that it was a love marriage. Maybe IIML tag was incomplete without a love marriage, as IIML pass outs are known to have multitude affairs.
That was long back but when I recently came a across a woman, it just brought back the memories of that guy. The woman is in her late 20s, about to have an arranged marriage to a south Indian while she herself is a north Indian. It is actually very wonderful of her to marry a south Indian, if only had she accepted it was an arranged marriage. For what-so-ever reason she was marrying him, she had only one regret. Yeah, you are bang on. Sometimes she used to be exultant that people would consider it to be a love marriage but when it came to facing the reality that it wasn’t, she would go into a shell. She once told me that she didn’t sleep properly last night. I asked her the reason. She responded saying it was because of some construction work. Only to add later that people might think that she must be busy with her boyfriend over the phone the whole of the night and how much she would have prized it to be true.
After listening to their sagas, I feel myself going into a shell as the only route of escaping such people.
Majority of the times we forget that love marriage just builds a comfortable zone for the two persons before the marriage but the marriage does not sustain on one comfortable zone. Rest apart, I have never understood the notion of people believing that love marriage works and arranged marriage doesn’t. I surely love seeing a couple getting married. In fact I am myself a pure believer of a love marriage but the constant cribbing and nagging of such people about ‘haves and have not’s’ is what pisses me off. I hope that this lot understands the concept that marriage is just a marriage. In some marriages, definitely, love would be placed before the word marriage, but if your case is not the one then this does not mean by any means that there would be no love after marriage.
How does this word sound ‘marriage love’ for arranged marriages, love after marriage? Well this was what those self proclaimed forbidden wanted. Love is what you need after all, before or after marriage. Right?
